i’d like to share something pleasant in this piece. just a quick thought. someone left a comment on a previous post that said, “i love how genuine and vulnerable you are in this piece, yet not discouraged or in despair.” which had me thinking why.. I’m going to try and explain…
we all have an inner voice, think of the angel or devil on our shoulders, which guides our choices. i spend a majority of my time in my own company, so I talk to myself very often. i however, don’t have the angel and the devil on my shoulder. i have one voice, that’s filled with doubt. doubt is the demon i’m fighting on a regular basis. “you’re not good enough, maybe if you didn’t, its because you’re”… and so on, are thoughts that spend time with me. i’m harder on myself that i am on others, and its guilt that eats me up quicker than my eye can blink. i see a lot of good in things, but i’ll be the first to shy away from optimism during my own battle.
i’ll punish myself for being optimistic. something unexpected may happens, i’ll internalise, over analyse, making it seem worse than it really is. it’s self-sabotaging. so i decided (consciously) to approach this inner doubt with empathy, a little curiosity, friendliness, and plenty of forgiveness through positive affirmations. in my note to self on body image, i mentioned that this was a puzzle and the first piece is self love. granted there are many ways for people to value themselves, some of those are more emotionally beneficial than others, but there is a reason words of affirmation is one of the five love languages – words mean a lot. they’re powerful in guiding how we think. so, in my own company, i surround myself with words that affirm love. that’s how I stay positive.
one of my favourite quotes,
“when a thought of war comes, oppose it by a stronger thought of peace. a thought of hatred must be destroyed by a more powerful thought of love” – Abdul-Baha
we aren’t always conscious of it but every day we’re judging ourselves based off words spoken that give expression to our lives. positive affirmations help me heal and keep me centred. i spend time reading quotes, poems and stories that spark feelings of self-worth, re-work my belief systems and shift my perspectives. this is what warms my spirit. find what warms yours and indulge in it. unapologetically.